Random Mother’s Day thoughts
Flowers are nice, but...
10 May 2026
Mother’s Day is a racket and I hate it.
I love being mom-of-my offspring and always have,
because my offspring is my favorite human of all time and I take great joy from our association.
I do not love the “trad mom” idea of motherhood - I am not a trad mom (goddess knows I tried it, and, well, nope).
Being a trad mom (“as seen on tv” and/or at church) is impossible, even if you have a trad dad in the mix (maybe especially then) because it requires a complete abandonment of self to fit an idea.
If you achieve tradmom-hood, then you are no longer whoever you were at core. You are AutoMom, a dispenser of mom-ness. Plug and play.
Meet the Trad family:
Trad Mom
Trad Dad
Trad Brad
Trad Cissy
All Fungible. Swappable. OEM or aftermarket parts with a use-by date.
DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME.
I am not my mom-ness.
Mom-ness is a marketing concept, like cuteness, or buffness, or sveltness.
If you celebrate mom-ness, what you are celebrating is the fact that you exist because you were lucky enough to survive living and you had the help of someone who cared about you enough to try to keep you alive. It’s not about the mom. It’s about you.
On Mother’s Day you are celebrating your own existence.
Make a big deal of that, if you want to.
You should.
You’re spectacular.
So yeah - celebrate.
But be honest about what you’re celebrating.
Celebrate those who love and help you along the way.
Maybe even love them and help them, too.
Happy day of humaning.
~
CJ
10may2026
Yes. Mike and I were just talking about the Mother’s Day traditions in the church where all the mothers were asked to stand and handed a flower. I can’t help but think about the women who are childless, whether by choice or circumstance, and how that must’ve made them feel. I totally agree with your thinking here., And that being said, happy Mother’s Day, dear friend.